I know it seems like it to you (it sure does feel like it to me), but your kids don't hate you. They roll their eyes, yes. They moan and groan, yes, yes. They don't even try to hide the fact that they hate this school thing you do.
But they don't hate you.
They just don't get it. They are young, immature, and primarily concerned with having fun, so they don't get how important all this school work is. They have no idea how useful it will be to know how to add, subtract, multiply, and divide some day. They have no clue the great treasure there is in knowing the story of this world or what makes things work in this world. Even if they secretly enjoying learning history and science, ask them to write a sentence about it, and the sighs and complaining begin.
You may try to deal with this through discipline. Be like me and withhold use of electronic devices. Or settle it in your mind that this is the way it is.
And don't take it personally. They don't hate you.
They hate what you are making them do. They resent the work they have to do, cause, hey, it's hard. It interferes with all the free Lego play and conquering the next level of whatever the latest video game is. It mean less time on Mindcraft. It interrupts the reading of the book they can't put down for the book they loathe. In short, you are trying to teach them to deny themselves. To prioritize responsibilities. To learn early on the value of hard work.
And they haven't learned any of this yet.
But they love you. They love that you make them dinner and drag them into the living room to hear another chapter of a great story. They love that you are there to drag their butts out of bed in the morning. They love you even when you get cranky and frustrated and want to quit. They love you when you have to remind them again to do their chores.
They just don't like what they have to do.
It's so very hard feeling like they hate you. It's so very hard to be the "bad guy". I know you dream of just having fun with your kids and you might even think that would make your home the happiest place on earth. No chores, no school work, no responsibilities. Just letting everyone do what they want to do. Maybe it seems to work for some of your homeschool friends. Maybe it seems like other families are happier. And other kids don't hate their parents.
But they all have their moments.
You need to remember your moments. The precious ones. When the kids beg for another chapter.
They love you. Someday they might even thank you for making them do all this hard work. Until then, love them dearly. Be the one to apologize. Be the one to give the hug that bridges the gap. Be the one to remind them you think the world of them. Let them have hot cocoa right before dinner. Talk to them about something other than what they should be doing. Don't forget they are your children and not your students.
Agape love is doing what is best for the person who is being loved, even if it doesn't seem best to them. All this work seems miserable to your kids, but don't let that deter you. It is an expression of your love to teach them.
Remember that they need you to be tender and tough.
And remember that they love you.
Now go give them a hug.